Single girl in the middle—that’s exactly where I found myself on Valentine’s Day. I was sandwiched between Courtney’s sweet flower bouquet and Tracie’s chocolate covered strawberries. Yikes! Suddenly, I wasn’t just a single girl…I was an especially single girl. In that moment I felt lonely, incomplete, and insufficient. Basically, not enough as is. However, a quick spot-check, known as the tenth step of recovery, quickly stopped the self-pity express.

No amount of chocolate, flowers, diamonds, or even affection will fill the void in my soul. That space is only satisfied with God. As I meditated it became clear that I do indeed create my own misery. And the Big Book’s instruction is clear: “Avoid then, the deliberate manufacture of misery, but if trouble comes, cheerfully capitalize it as an opportunity to demonstrate His omnipotence.”

Armed with God’s grace and power I continued my day. That evening I found myself sandwiched once again, but this time between some amazing people in the fellowship. I freely shared the love in my heart as we noshed on pizza and cookies. We shared laughs and hugs. And when I laid my head on my pillow, I was complete.

The lesson learned: I am blessed to share the love in my heart everyday, not just Valentine’s Day.

About the Author:

Vickie Bing is the Director of Alumni Services for BRC Recovery. She received her B.A. in English from the University of Texas at Arlington. Vickie is a former high school teacher. She is also an Air Force Veteran. You can read other posts at