ATTITUDE
Attitude is the one thing we can control in every situation. You're not a victim of everything that happens unless you choose to see yourself that way.
Attitude is the one thing we can control in every situation. You're not a victim of everything that happens unless you choose to see yourself that way.
What is my responsibility? I am NOT responsible for my alcoholic loved one's drinking, sobriety, job, cleanliness, diet, dental hygiene, or other choices.
Progress can be hard to recognize, especially if our expectations are unrealistically high.
Forgiveness is not forgetting, it’s letting go of the hurt. Can I identify areas I have been unwilling to let go of and that are hindering my own happiness?
We have to learn to stop obsessing over control. Once we see that our attempts to exercise power are based on illusions, it is easier to let go and let God.
Is there an area of my life that I treat as though it were too important to turn over to my Higher Power? My way has seldom worked in the past.
Things that are urgent are rarely important, and that things that are important are rarely urgent. Don't lose sight of what really matters in recovery.
"Always be a work in progress." Consider praying for an attitude of progress, not perfection, in the process of your loved one's recovery.
Ask yourself questions to maintain your authenticity. "Has maintaining an image become more important than my emotional freedom today?"
The word detachment is often misunderstood. For me, detachment is the freedom to own what is mine and to allow others to own what is theirs.
Today, with the support of Al-Anon members, I am able to face the reality of the past, not to place blame or wallow in self-pity but to learn from it.
Step Twelve: Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.