Motivation Mondays

Step Ten

Weekly Focal Point

“Continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment and fear. When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them. We discuss them with someone immediately and make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.”

~ Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous pg. 84 ~

step ten

Twelve Step Series: Step Ten

Step Ten: We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

“Each of the preceding Steps, especially Steps Four through Nine, helped prepare us for Step Ten. Through those Steps, we acknowledged the importance of recognizing our shortcomings and admitting them. We also realized that for the Twelve Steps to become a way of life for us, we would continue to observe and evaluate ourselves. Step Ten asked us to continue to take action to wipe the slate clean and avoid building up regrets. Again, we saw that the Al-Anon program was centered on us – on developing our own contentment with life. This led us to still another thought: not to allow ourselves to be affected or influenced by the demands and expectations of others. In our relationships with family and friends, we may have felt we were only trying to please when we did what someone else thought we should. We thought we were being unselfish when we put aside our own preferences and went along meekly with what somebody else wanted of us. What we were really doing was damaging ourselves. Perhaps we were afraid to refuse a request or demand. Maybe we were worried we would cross someone, especially if it was an alcoholic trying to manipulate and control us. In standing our ground we helped others realize that they could not impose their unreasonable behavior on us. We were properly protecting our own right to what was best for us. Being aware of that right served a dual, beneficial purpose and strengthened us to meet our difficulties with courage and confidence.”

(Al-Anon’s Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions, pg. 62-63)

3 C’s of Al-Anon

  1. We didn’t CAUSE it
  2. We can’t CONTROL it
  3. We can’t CURE it


***Next Family Afterward Meeting will take place on April 27th @ 7 p.m. CST via Zoom***

Considerations for the Week

  1. Do I like myself better when I “Live and Let Live” with others in my life?
  2. Am I willing to follow the directions from Step Ten to maintain healthy relationships and limits with others while fostering my own spiritual development?
  3. Does the freedom from living for others found in the tenth step appeal to me? Am I motivated to begin living my life in spiritual principles to stay connected to my Higher Power, realizing that is my most valuable relationship today?