Motivation Mondays

Cover Ups and Fate

Today’s Reminder: Cover Ups and Fate

“I pray to God to help me understand that the alcoholic’s fate is not in my hands. I will leave to Him whatever action is to be taken, and guard against interfering with the working out of His plan for us.”

One Day At A Time Series

Cover Ups

Someone says at an Al-Anon meeting: “But I must ‘cover up’ for the alcoholic; what would my neighbors and friends think of me if I didn’t?” Another admits that she must make excuses to the boss, lest the alcoholic lose his job. Another goes to work to help pay bills that should be the responsibility of the head of the household. Can we really delude ourselves into believing that such stop-gaps will work? Do we imagine they will do anything but prolong the alcoholic in agony, since we know the disease is progressive? We would do well to realize that the inevitable collapse may be far worse than if we had allowed him to face up to his own responsibilities and mistakes, free of our interference.

3 C’s of Al-Anon

  1. We didn’t CAUSE it
  2. We can’t CONTROL it
  3. We can’t CURE it


Questions to Consider This Week

  1. Can I identify various ways that I have disrupted the natural order of consequences for my loved one in an attempt to cover up or delay the inevitable? Are my attempts helpful in the long run?
  2. Will I prayerfully begin to consider the possibility that my Higher Power has an ultimate plan for us all and that I may be interfering with this even when my motives are good?